There are certain moments in our life wherein things don’t turn out our way. Everyone goes through tough times and can oftentimes be a cause of our disappointments and frustrations in life. Disappointments can come in the form of relationship problems between families, friends, spouses and even your boss and co-workers. It could be due to financial problems such as not being able to go to college or being jobless. It can even be as simple as promises being broken.
Nonetheless, it is not something that only you go through. What matters is not focusing on the unlucky moments of life but rather being able to learn how to handle such disappointments to make us a stronger person in the future.
Here are when things don’t go as planned quotes that I have written based on my personal experiences. I used to lock myself in my room when things don’t turn the way I wanted them to be and I dwell on it for a very long time. This has made me “stuck” for too long until I realized I have wasted so much time grieving over nonsense.
And these things will not happen to you if you change your outlook in life. There is always a better option and there are better things that are meant for you if you will only realize it too soon.
Things don’t always go as planned but that doesn’t mean we don’t need to plan anymore. It just means we need to be flexible and be able to adapt to things beyond our control.
You can’t really plan out your life exactly the way you want it to be. There will be times when things change and plans need to be changed too. Sometimes, goals can even be altered due to unforeseen life events. Yet, even if these things happen, it doesn’t mean we just have to stop planning our lives out. We just need to understand that things will not always go our way and we just have to live with what we have. We should learn to adapt from certain situations in life even if it will be hard. We just have to survive.
Don’t think you’ve wasted your time planning and failed in the end. You can still make use of that, find out what went wrong and use it to make a better plan.
Wrong decisions in life shouldn’t be taken negatively. Instead, use it as away to be wiser in your future decisions. Use it as a tool to do better next time and avoid the same mistakes. It may be a bit frustrating to experience such failures, but that’s part of life. You just have to take things positively and it will be easier to live it everyday. Planning ahead would still be better rather than making fast decisions without even thinking if it’s right or wrong.
Sometimes, things don’t happen exactly as planned to teach us not to be careful but to care less of the fog.
When I was a little girl I told myself that one day I will be a doctor. I have twin siblings with cerebral palsy. Everyone who asks what I want to be when I grow up I would always say, “I want to be a doctor so I can cure my siblings so they can walk and won’t get sick anymore.”
Unfortunately one of them died when I was in high school. That made me more determined to pursue my dream so I studied very well. I was so sure back then I will succeed.
In college I had two courses to choose from. Both are preparatory courses for medicine but the one I chose had a license examination. My mom is our breadwinner and to help her, I decided to look after my brother so we rented an apartment somewhere near my school.
During my internship, I witnessed how life goes for medical students especially during examination week. They were carrying loads of hardbound books and wearing “not so white” uniforms with dark rings under their red eyes.
I wasn’t discouraged by such though. What made me think twice was when I noticed a few days delay on our monthly allowance. I know my mom that well. She won’t tell you straight when her budget is tight. She is, up to now, an excellent provider not only to us her children but also to many more who needs her help.
Sensitive as I am though, I decided not to pursue my dream and take my license examination instead and find a job. Furthermore, with my medical background at that time, I was able to accept my brother’s condition. He had series of frequent seizures for 7 years that caused a permanent damage to a large number of his brain cells. At 16, it was too late for him to undergo speech and physical therapy.
What could have been just struck me as I write this today. What if I pursued my medical degree despite my worries that we might not afford it? I might have been a successful pediatrician by now.
I was afraid of the fog back then because I couldn’t see clearly what will happen if I go on. I was too afraid that I stopped and turned back.
When we dream, we make a certain goal and make plans on how to realize them. We want as much as possible to have a clear vision of what lies ahead of us.
Most often than not though, we are faced with adversities along the way and all of a sudden, we get off track and that clear, bright vision turns dull with little to zero visibility.
Sometimes, things don’t happen as planned to teach us not to be careful but to care less of the fog. Just move forward. You will get there anyhow.
Life becomes so much easier when we look beyond what makes us falter and focus on what truly matters.
As Michael Jordan said, “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
What makes us falter indeed can be a source of motivation, an inspiration, a teacher, a stepping stone, an enabler of success.
When we look beyond what makes falter, we are giving ourselves the chance to become better, to learn from these mistakes and to focus on what matters. And what matters is how we stand up after a fall. It’s how we pick ourselves back up and dust ourselves off. It’s how we say I can do this and I’m doing it now.
All we can really do is to take one step at a time.
There are things in life that we want to happen and sometimes, we want them to happen right now. When there is something that we want to achieve and we want it so badly, we tend to become flustered. Like there so many things to do, there are so many things we want to do to realize our goal, there are too many of them that it’s really difficult now to just focus and know how to start.
The key here is to really just take a step at a time. Try to give some space and give yourself the chance to learn. Don’t get stuck to frustrations by doing the same mistakes over and over again. Focus on one thing, carry it out and then move from there. It’s really taking one step at a time and it might take some time before you can achieve your dream but know that every step is one step closer to your vision.
Don’t dwell on things you prayed for that you didn’t get. Just focus on God’s blessings you have that you didn’t ask.
When you focus on the things that you didn’t get or haven’t gotten yet, chances are, you will always feel that there’s something lacking inside you or at least in your life. But when you focus on God’s blessings, those blessings that you haven’t asked but they are given to you, you will feel how truly blessed you are and you will not feel the emptiness that comes from wanting for more.
Darkness is an illusion that fades away with light.
No matter how bleak things to appear right now, know that soon comes daylight and everything looks brighter. This is one of the strange facts that we don’t fully understand but we always know that it’s true.
No matter how dire the problems you are dealing with, know that there is hope. There are people who care for you. There are people you can turn to and seek comfort from. There are people you can ask guidance from. There are many people who are helpful and caring who like to help others. There are people who will listen to you.
Darkness is just an illusion. Dark thoughts is all in the mind. The moment you’ve taken a positive step, they just simply fade away.
Life is in a constant motion no matter how vague at times it leads us to.
I am a safe player. Although I had decisions in my life that involved some risks, they are mostly intelligently and carefully planned. I always anticipate everything that might go wrong so when things don’t happen as planned, at least I have prepared myself somehow. For me it’s easier to accept failure that way.
Or perhaps we can call it vigilance. I love being vigilant – being watchful, careful, cautious, always anticipating and somehow expecting the worst. This works for me pretty well.
The only problem is that, when I am faced with a situation that I never anticipated of coming, it would take some time before I can finally accept it and adapt to it and every time this happens I just shut my world down and stop it from moving.
I know life has to go on even though it’s not yet clear where I’m heading to. I believe that behind this ambiguity, something great is waiting for me. Perhaps I have to take greater risks this time, move out from my comfort zone and embrace growth that comes with taking risks. I know I will be happy. I just really have to live my life.
Failure is inevitable but it will not last. Success may took long but will surely come.
Failure is a part of life. It’s going to happen no matter how hard you try. Sometimes you are meant to fail in order to learn. You need to fail so you can understand how to succeed. You should never give up or become defeated though, because success will come to you when it is meant to. You may have to work harder at it. You may have to reach your goals by different means. It may take longer than you wanted but it will come when it is meant to.
The day has ended so close the page. What has been done has been done. Tomorrow is a new day. Start it peacefully with a regenerated soul.
Once your day has come to an end, it’s over. You can sit back and reflect on your day, your actions, and your decisions. You may find that you have regrets and wishes that you had done things differently. There is nothing that can be done to change what has already happened in your day. However, you can go to sleep and sleep peacefully because you know that tomorrow is a whole new day. Any mistakes you made today can be remedied tomorrow. You can start your day fresh and new and give it all another go with a new outlook.
In reality, no matter what you do, and whether you like it or not, your life can be a mess. The better side of it is that you decide how you mess it up and how you fix it up.
Life is a series of ups and downs. Life can be messy no matter how hard we try to reach our goals. Sometimes that’s just how things are. Life gives us obstacles which become the experiences that make us who we are. But on the bright side of our messy lives, is that we have the option to make it messier by doing nothing. Or we have the option to clean it up and make it something beautiful. It’s all about perspective. It’s all in how you look at things.
Experience comes from mistakes of the past and results to accomplishments in the future.
We gain experience in everything we do in life. We gain some good experience and we also gain some bad experience. Mistakes we have made actually enhances our experience. We take that experience and apply it to our future choices. Those past experiences, good and bad, is what helps us make better decisions for our future. Our past successes and mistakes is what we use to bring about accomplishments in our future.
We have the prerogative to do what we want, to learn from our mistakes and shine the brightest to our most defining moments of success.
We all have choices in life. At every turn there is a decision to be made. Sometimes we make the wrong decision and we find we have made a mistake. It is our choice as to what we do with that mistake. We must always be aware of our mistakes in order to keep from making them over and over again. When we develop the ability to avoid the same mistakes, we are able to use them to become successful. We use our mistakes to our own benefit. We must make the choice to use our mistakes to become the most successful version of ourselves.
Until you are able to accept the past events as truth or as a way of life that you will find peace and accept with grace what is yet to come.
Learn to accept that everything that is happening around you and within you right now is a residual effect of what happened in your past. Try to see that each of the past events in your life adds up to make you who you are today. The decisions you made from the past, how you dealt with every difficulty you had, they all added up to who you are today.
And if you are aware of this truth, if you accept this as a way of life, you will have the conscious effort to make better decisions, to weigh things carefully, to deal with your struggles wisely because you know that this will create a better residual situation to live in later.
You can make it if you try. All you need is an undying spirit, a tireless desire for results and a relentless will to try again when things do not go as expected.
You can achieve any goal you set for yourself. You have to try and try hard. You will run in to obstacles and problems that will try to break your spirit, but if your spirit is undying, then it cannot be broken and it will help you succeed. You must have an endless desire to reach your goal. Don’t give up. Use all the will you have in yourself and overcome the obstacles you face on your journey to your goal, and you will make it.
We can heal and accept what happened because the world won’t wait for us.
Bad things are going to happen in life. It is inevitable. It is okay to take a little time and grieve. But you cannot allow your grief to overcome you and take over your life. You have to allow yourself to begin to heal. You must accept that something bad happened, and accept that bad things are going to happen in the future. The world and those around you will not wait for you to wallow in your sorrow. Everyone will move on without you. So you must accept what has happened as a part of life, start the healing process, and move on with your life.
Emotional pain can take a toll of a person for a long time. It is our choice to sink or swim from it.
Emotions are difficult to control sometimes. And in life, we are presented with events and problems that are hurtful and bring us enormous amounts of heartache and emotional suffering. When someone has been in emotional turmoil for a long period of time, it can weigh them down and begin to get the best of them. It is your choice to allow that emotional pain to drag you down and take over your life. You must choose to keep your head above water and develop yourself from the pain you have experienced.
There is always a chance to start your life all over. It’s only up to you to take them.
Throughout life, we make decisions that sometimes turn out to be the wrong decision. That is okay as long as you remember that you have the power to just stop and start all over again. You can reinvent yourself and your life anytime you choose. You can shed yourself of all the problems you have faced and wipe your own slate clean and begin fresh. You just have to make the decision to start over and the decision to begin again with a new outlook.
In time you will also learn how to see something good in every bad thing that happens to you. Think of all the blessings you have and be grateful for having them. Remember that sometimes you have to feel how to be sad to appreciate being happy soon for after worry comes relief and after sorrow comes joy.
As you grow older, you will come to realize that without bad things happening, you wouldn’t know there was good in the world. All the bad things that happen to you are actually blessings in some way. It may only be happening to show you something good. There is something positive to be taken from every negative thing that happens. You can learn and grow from anything that happens to you, good or bad. For every bad thing that happens in your life, remember that there is something good that will follow. Even the biggest storms create the most beautiful rainbows.
Setbacks are just distractions. To persevere you are not allowed to complain. Focus and you will flourish.
In life we make decisions for ourselves and use those decisions to set goals for our lives. However, there will be times when we must all face setbacks in the journey to our goals. If you are going to make it to your goal, you must not complain when something doesn’t go your way. It’s just part of your story. It will be part of the journey that helped you reach your goal in the end. Stay focused and keep on moving towards the finish line. You will make it and you will be happier doing it.
DO THE BEST YOU CAN in every way you can and hope that things will work out for you in the end. If not, learn from it and TRY AGAIN. If to try again becomes unreasonable, then I think it’s time to LET IT GO and START ALL OVER AGAIN.
At some point in life things don’t go our way. At some point we are doomed to fail. Yet we get back up and keep trying. That is what makes the human race thrive. However, there are times in life when to continue with the same course of action, when the results have been the same at every outcome, that we must declare it insane to continue on in that path. We must make a conscious decision to let go, move on, and start over.
During worst and most difficult times is definitely not the right time to quit. It is the time to be strong and be courageous enough to say, “I can.”
Bad times come to us all. There are those moments in life when you truly believe it cannot get any worse for you. You may feel like giving up. You may feel like saying to yourself “I can’t do it”. You should not let those defeating thoughts overcome you. You should work to stay strong and say “I can.” You will make it through whatever this terrible time may be, and you will become a better, stronger person for it.
Pause if you have to, but never stop. Never give up. Let yourself heal from all the pain and heartbreak this life has brought you but just pause for awhile. Never stop. Never quit. Never give up.
So many times in life something happens that pushes us to our breaking point. A point where we think that’s it. We think we cannot go on like this for another second. Then we realize that we can go on. That life does go on. Those most difficult times make us want to throw our hands up and say I am done. But we don’t. We simply hit the pause button, take a small break, and continue on when we regain our strength.
No one can pick yourself back up except you. Dust yourself off and start all over again. It is never too late. Nothing is ever too late if you can just hold your head up high and say, “I can do this. I will not quit.
When you have reached a point where you want to give up you have to reach deep within yourself and find that tiny inner voice that says “Not today.. Today I will not give up.” No matter how hard things are, you must get up and keep going. No one else can do this for you. It’s something you must do for yourself. Others can encourage you, but you are the only one who can make yourself get up and keep going in the face of adversity.