Here is a break up letter that I have written years ago for someone I loved so dearly. We’ve been friends ever since but our romantic relationship was tested not only by distance but also by so many people who were close to us.
It’s hard to let go if you still have feelings for him. And I am in that position when I wrote this. I was so emotional and I just really need to pour my heart out. In other words, we didn’t break up at that time.
It took about 2 more years before we finally ended our relationship – an ending that was sad and was long overdue. There was nothing left of us but bitterness and grudge and resentment. It was so toxic that what we really needed was to get out from it and say goodbye so we can both be happy.
Break Up Letter to Someone You Love
After everything that we’ve been through, after all the pain that I have to endure, I just came to realize that perhaps, these trials are not meant to make us strong and make us hold on to each other more. Perhaps, these trials were given to us because our relationship is not supposed to happen.
And yes your mom is right. I’m not the perfect one for you. You deserve someone far better than me – someone who doesn’t need to let you wait, someone who doesn’t have to heal herself, fix herself, prepare herself from the separation anxiety she needs to go through from her brother in order to be with you, someone whose mind is not filled with negative thoughts, someone who doesn’t dwell on the past, someone who forgives and forgets, someone whose heart has not been filled with sorrow and pain.
And yes you are right. All these years I’ve been that someone who doesn’t practice what she preaches. I don’t walk the talk. I don’t do as I say. I plan and I just stop right there. I’m a failure, a loser.
I’m sorry I have dragged you into all of this. I’m sorry I have ruined everything… I am sorry to have kept you waiting for nothing, for wasting all your time for nothing…
I asked you if you still want me and for how many seconds that you didn’t answer – that long pause – I already know the answer… I know it’s over…
Though how hard it may seem and God knows how unbearable this is, I know I have to let you go. And as much as I still wanted to hold on, to tell you to please hold on too, to tell you how much I needed you, how so much I needed you right now…. to tell you how much I love you, I know that I have to keep myself from letting you know all this now because this is not what you wanted.
I want you to be happy, to be really really happy and I’m sorry if I’m not the one who you thought I am. I’m sorry if I’m not the one who can make you happy.
I love you, God knows I still do. But I know it’s not the same thing for you anymore. I know how much you’ve changed. And I don’t blame you for it. Everything happens for a reason and for everything that happened, I know it wasn’t your fault.
I’m so sorry that I have to give up so easily. You will be happy with someone else. I’m very sure of that. And don’t worry about me. I know how to be happy. I just need to let you out of this miserable life that I’ve put you into.
And when the time comes that you are happy with a life that you choose, then I will be happy for you too. But for now, I have to be strong. I have to say goodbye…